You're exhausted, and on paper, your life looks... fine. Maybe even successful. You followed the "right" path – got the education your parents wanted, chose the stable career, maybe married the approved partner.

The worst part?
Your family would be horrified if they knew you weren't grateful for everything you have. Your friends see your "successful" life and wouldn't understand.
So you smile, nod, and keep pretending.




Instead of saying "Sorry, but I can't host Chinese New Year again this year," you calmly say, "I won't be hosting this year. Let me know how else I can contribute." No guilt spiral. No three-day anxiety hangover.
That job opportunity you've been agonising over for months? You'll know within days whether it aligns with who you're becoming. No more endless pros and cons lists that go nowhere.
You gain clarity when you realise that the relationship you've been hoping for may have been based more on your expectations than on reality and that it's up to you to decided whether you can truly make it happen.
When you recognise that some things are within your control and others are not, that clarity brings a deep relaxation your body has been waiting for.
When your colleague asks you to cover their weekend shift, you instantly know your answer without the internal wrestling match. When your mother suggests you should have another baby, you respond with calm confidence instead of defensive anger.
Instead of Sunday night dread, you feel curious about the week ahead. You have bandwidth for that creative project again. You laugh more. You actually enjoy the success you've worked so hard for.

